1.) Change your vocabulary. What is the first negative thought that comes to your mind? It may be something along the lines of, “I can’t do this; I’m a failure!” Repeat your thought loud and clear for the entire world to hear. Come to terms with your negativity. Bottling up these intense feelings that you have towards yourself is unhealthy, whether it has to deal with doubt, lack of respect, and so forth. Write this thought on a piece of paper, crumple it up, and toss it into the garbage. This thought can’t destroy you any longer! Like the old saying goes, out with the old and in with the new! Start saying the exact opposite; “I can do this; I will reach my goal!” Repeat this thought over and over again, ultimately locking it up inside of your head. When you need a moment of self-affirmation, you now hold the key to release the positivity.
2.) Surround yourself with positive people. Let’s face it. Nobody wants to face the world alone and sometimes, you do need help. It doesn’t make you weak. It doesn’t make you a failure. And, it certainly doesn’t mean that you can’t do anything for yourself. A lot of us are scared to ask for help for the fear of hurting one’s self-pride. Reaching out for help can range from needing a favor, wanting a question answered, or simply asking for an ear to listen. Surround yourself with uplifting people who will listen to you when you’re feeling out of sorts. It really does help to be able to release those inner demons to the surface. If you’re offered advice, nobody said that you have to follow through. Just put it under a list of possible solutions to solve whatever problem you’re being faced with. Independence is important, but it’s human nature to crave support, so surround yourself with the most positive people you know.
3.) Grab a pen, some paper, and make a list. Write down your positive attributes, greatest abilities, and biggest accomplishments. Next, identify areas in your life that you feel need to be changed or improved. Once you’re fully aware of your strengths and weaknesses, you can come up with possible solutions to the latter of the two. Instead of dwelling on what you believe needs fixed, do something about it and stop making excuses to rationalize your behavior. Prime example: “I failed this exam, so I’m obviously a loser. I’m going to give up now.” What should really be rolling through your mind is: “This too shall pass, and I will try harder next time. This is no time to give up because I’m much stronger than this.” A little belief in one’s self goes a long way. Trust me. If you can’t even believe in yourself, then who can you believe in? You’re tougher than you realize. Just come to terms with the underlying problem and do differently than what has failed in the past.
4.) Bring your “little voice” to the surface and really listen. The past is the past, and often times, the little voice inside of our heads is merely a result of our past conditioning. It’s a bundle of experiences, could’ves, would’ves, should’ves, regrets, wishes, etc. Don’t let the past control your future. You hold the power to change your current situation for the better. Your inner voice is only a wall, and that wall doesn’t have to be permanently erect. Bring your inner voice to the surface, actively listen, and dismantle any unnecessary feats that may pose a threat to your success. Be the change that you wish to see in the world, even if it’s your world. Your world is no less important than anyone else’s, so don’t allow it to be. “Once the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.” Sure the caterpillar was probably unhappy, but now it’s free to fly away and embrace the life that it was always destined to have. It’s time to release your cocoon and spread your wings!
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